Know that grief is a natural part of life and the struggle is real. It’s coping with the loss and emptiness of that loved one that puts everything into perspective.
Loneliness is a state of solitude that could be for sober reflection. Drawing strength from this period of sober reflection will make one come out stronger and more powerful to actualize dreams after the period.
Focus remains the best tool to apply while putting the issue behind and forging ahead.
While there is life, there is hope so says the clause. Life has no duplicate so it can only be lived once. Certain things happen that almost imprisons our lives and could determine the direction we go.
In the instance when the head of a family who doubles as the chief financial source passes on. The inability of the loved ones he left behind to catch up with the enormous responsibility of economic challenges poses a great deal of threat. When the financial freedom of a family is threatened simply because of the gap created by the deceased, a lot has to be done to fill it.
Finance is very key in every aspect of life. The budgetary allocations of the family is essential. A great financial strength is required to place the family on the right path. The state of solitude could be explored maximally to develop a good idea that will facilitate great business ventures.
Loneliness caused by this grief will birth the strength of compassion in you. Loneliness strengthens your relationship with yourself. There is a deep loneliness that stems from losing your loved one but you can find strength. When you are married to your biggest cheerleader, losing him/her might be overwhelming but all hope is not lost.
The experience of grief is both uniquely personal and universal. Our personality, our relationship with the deceased, the manner in which the deceased died, our life stage, and many other contextual factors matters and impact grief.
There are many experiences, phases, stages of grief that are universal.
Those who are grieving deeply or who are farther along in their healing are often trying to understand grief and its realities. It has been said that people die but relationships do not.
We grieve differently. No one can comfort you like you. Solitude improves psychological well-being. Solitary skills could help you become mentally stronger.
Studies show the following about people who find time to be alone:
They tend to be happier.
They report better life satisfaction.
Lower levels of stress.
They’re also less likely to have depression.
Loneliness can also be attributed to internal factors such as low self-esteem. People who lack confidence in themselves often believe that they are unworthy of the attention or regard of other people.
Action plans to recovery after grief
Again, when alone by yourself, never let your self-deprecating and depressing thoughts take charge of you, these are your biggest enemies. However when alone, identify and focus on your known positives, and some you never knew you had. Do a self-evaluation of your potentials, talents, passions, capabilities, what you love to do, can do, and so on. This will make you feel motivated and inspired by yourself.
Indulge in positive self-talk, conduct a debate with yourself, and ask yourself what is the essence of having all but unable to use them.
Why the hell should you worry about what others think and feel about you? Self talk your mind into recovery. An example is given below: "I don’t need the endorsement and approval of others, I am what I am, life is to be lived with people and among people. I may prefer to be alone, but not lonely confined in a prison within myself. I must break these shackles which I have put on myself, I must have good sense of humor and assertiveness, what’s the good of this except my own ruin."
Do some self-talk on these lines, build up the confidence, and watch your mood improve for a breakthrough.
Using your imagination and imagine yourself socializing, talking to people confidently, having fun, and so on. Feel that in you and believe it.
If you can think something you may as well make it happen the way you think, what’s the big deal! You are what you think, believe, and feel you are. Change your self-directed views, attitudes, beliefs, thoughts, and set an intention to come out of the cocoon. See the world as so vast and wide full of opportunities, possibilities, and beauty, which you have been missing, due to the self-imposed punishment of life sentence of loneliness and self-imprisonment.
Challenge and question your negative thoughts, don’t believe them. They are not true, they will overwhelm you more if you give them importance and attention. Replace them with positive and strong thoughts.
The world is full of opportunities commensurate with your capability, you will stagnate and rot, if you don’t break out of the shell and start wriggling around.
When a spouse dies the grief is unbearable, and you simultaneously have to learn to navigate tasks you were never responsible for on your own most times.
Do what you love to do, think of what you are capable of doing, and let go of what you cannot do, change, or control. Be what you like. You are the CEO of your life.